Manner Monday: Should I give both a Shower and Wedding Gift?

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Q – “I was invited to a bridal shower and could not attend so I was planning on sending my gift soon. Do I also get her a wedding gift? I debate this issue and usually buy for both, but wanted to check and get an official etiquette opinion.  Thanks so much!” – Best, Tina

A – Various etiquette books dictate that if you did not attend the shower, you do not need to send a shower gift.  You can send one gift as the ‘wedding gift’. If you DO attend the shower, then yes, two gifts, one for the shower and one for the wedding.

Garlic and AdoboI know you didn’t ask, but I wanted to share a fun idea for the shower gift. We recently had a family member get married and were invited to numerous showers.  One gift idea we came up with was for each my husband and I to each put our ‘favorite’ kitchen item with a note about it and why it was our favorite into nice kitchen strainer as a basket.  His was a commercial grade garlic press and fresh garlic pods because he uses garlic in just about everything.  Mine was a spice called ‘Adobo’… because I use IT in almost everything.  We wrote a personal note about wishing them luck bringing their favorites into their kitchen to make it their own and spicing-up their home.

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Carey Sue

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