Manner Monday®: Q&A

As seen on:

My goal with my career is to help others.  I love answering questions and helping people solve some of those pesky little questions that may be lingering in the back of their mind. Over the holiday break, I had a couple of people reach out with various Q’s so I thought I’d share the A’s with you.  As I tell students all of the time, ASK questions, if you have a question – there’s a pretty good chance someone else wants to know that answer too!  Do you have a question you’d like to ask?  Please let me know!

Q – Should one write a thank you note for hostess gifts received when hosting a dinner or party?
A – No need to write a thank you note for a hostess gift (unless it’s something over the top and really extravagant).  Technically their hostess gift is a ‘thank you’ to you for hosting them.   A text message would work in the situation of acknowledging something more than an ordinary or common hostess gift.  (I know, don’t faint, I said ‘text’), you don’t want to create a never e cycle of thank-you notes.

Q – Why do people cross out their names printed at the top of formal stationery? Am I supposed to be doing that?
A – This is an ‘old school‘ tradition and I RARELY see it done today.  There are a couple of thoughts behind the practice.  One is that the note is actually coming from the writer and not their assistant or secretary.  Another idea is that the mark shows a personal touch that the sender considers you a close friend versus an acquaintance.  It’s totally up to you if you want to engage in the practice.  It would be a nice touch when responding in writing to friends who have already demonstrated the practice and understand the meaning.

Q – I have a question about cards and envelopes. When stuffing a card into the envelope, should the card face the front or the back of the envelope?
A – This question takes me back to high school and the three years of ‘Typing 1’, ‘Typing 2’, and ‘Office Practice’ – which also reminds me to thank my mother for making me take the classes (showing my age here with those course titles!)  The card should face the ‘back’ of the envelope. So when the recipient opens the envelope, the note/card is right side up to them (see the picture below).


Do you know someone who would enjoy this post?  If so, please share it with them and encourage them to sign up to receive Manner Monday?  I would appreciate it!  And if you’re new to Manner Monday, I’d love for you to take a minute to learn more about why I started it. You can click here to read my very first post that tells all about it.

Do you have a ‘manner’ or question you would like to see covered in a post?  Feel free to send me your thoughts, I would love to hear from you.

As always, thanks for reading!
– Carey Sue

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin Thursday, January 14!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs.  Please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • Dude your Rude! Interoffice civility awareness and team building
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress
  • Trade Show Booth Training

Word of Mouth is the best compliment you can give.  Do you know of some who may be interested in our programs, please share our information with them.  Here is the best link to share with them, it covers everything in a nutshell:

Copyright 2022