Manner Monday®: Old School Etiquette

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I love it when former students send interesting links to articles related to Etiquette!

Thanks Helena and Isabel for passing on the article that recently appeared in Mental Floss, 5 Ways to Avoid Being Rude (According to 100-Year-Old Etiquette Rules).  I love the history of Etiquette, along with the evolution of Etiquette and how many of the ‘old school’ rules, are actually still applicable today.  In the article, the author references a book written in the early 1900’s by Dr. Jefferis.  When talking about women and clothing, Dr. Jefferis writes, “For women are like books – too much gilding makes men suspicious, that the binding is the most important part. The body is the shell of the soul, and the dress is the husk of the body; but the husk generally tells what the kernel is. As a fashionably dressed young lady passed some gentlemen, one of them raised his hat, whereupon another, struck by the fine appearance of the lady, made some inquiries concerning her, and was answered thus: “She makes a pretty ornament in her father’s house, but otherwise is of no use.”

We’ve all heard by now, ‘you can’t judge a book by its cover’, but that’s exactly what we do when we form our ‘first impression’ of someone based on outward appearances. We want to make smart choices in building our professional wardrobe, we want people to read us, get to know us.

You have a lot to offer, you want to be taken seriously – you’re not ‘just a pretty ornament’; choose your wardrobe wisely… it’s sending a message whether you like it or not.

In other news….

Passport (9-12th Grade) Program
Our High School events begin soon – don’t miss out!

  • Passport (9-12th Grade) Program registration online via:

Social Etiquette Lunch Workshops 
Lunch workshops are a great way to grab a fantastic meal, meet new people in an fun and nonthreatening environment AND learn something at the same time!

We have one lunch workshop left this season.  Don’t miss out on a fun opportunity and a chance to network and meet some new friends.  We’ll be talking about how to Survive Hosting the Holidays:

  • Tuesday, November 18, Gaillardia (Social Etiquette – preparing for the Holidays)

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Have you seen the Music Video?  Our Student Ambassadors came up with the idea, wrote the lyrics, arranged for the soundtrack recording, I helped arrange the videographer… they did the rest all themselves!  Pretty creative bunch of kids!!!

Don’t forget to watch through to the end for the bloopers!

Click on the picture below to access the video.

Business Etiquette Training and other Workshops
Would you like to schedule a workshop or presentation?

I have a variety of workshops that can be customized to fit your needs and would love to work with your organization, please call or email for more information, 405-721-1467 or

Here are just a few of the workshop topics:

  • Etiquette and the Generations – understanding ‘those guys’
  • Creating a Great Customer Service Experience
  • Business Etiquette and Professionalism – Navigating Lunch and Networking Events
  • First and Lasting Impressions
  • Professional Dress

As always, thanks for reading!

– Carey Sue

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