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Manner Monday: Digitally Dumping

 

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It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out Social Media is hot.  For the most part, it is how the younger generation communicates with one another, either via text message or facebook.  Email is becoming the new snail mail.  And you don’t have to look very far to see teenagers (and some adults) glued to their miniature ‘best friend’.  ‘Best friend’, unfortunately, seems to be the best description for their cell phone… as they are choosing to spend the vast majority of their time with these little gadgets.  So it shouldn’t be surprising to know that when it comes to delivering bad news, their method of choice is to send a text or post the news on facebook.

I don’t know too many people who actually look forward to conflict or delivering bad news.  It’s an unfortunate part of life that sometimes has to happen.  I know as the receiver of bad news, I would much rather hear it in person; and at a minimum, in person over the phone.  When it is delivered in person, empathy and sympathy can be conveyed by tone of voice and body language.  When it’s sent via social media, it’s black and white – cold as ice – zero personality – harsh.

Delivering bad news may not be fun and we may not look forward to it.  But doing it in person is the right thing to do.  Don’t you agree?

Fox 25 recenlty asked for my help with a story on ‘Digitally Dumping’.  Click here to view the story:  KOKH FOX 25 – Digitally Dumped .

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3 Comments

  1. Wolvenmoon says:

    Hi! I receive manner Monday as a forward in my group.

    This Manner Monday and the previous have really hit home with me. I’m a 21 year old computer geek. I despise small gadgetry and facebook due to what it’s doing to innovation in the computer industry, however, I do have a cell phone and I do have a facebook account.

    On last week’s manner Monday I had an objection. Let’s say Vonne’s friend was inviting all of those friends, let’s say ten people were invited including her. The typical phone call for an invitation to Pelican Bay would go like this:

    *Ringing for 10 seconds*
    “Hello?”
    “Hi friend! It’s *vonne’s friend*, we’re going to Pelican Bay later this afternoon. Would you like to join us?”
    “Hmm, let me check with my kids/parents/spouse!”

    “Sure! We’ll see you there!”
    “Alright, thanks, have fun!”
    “You too.”
    *Click*

    Total time spent: close to three minutes. Multiply this by ten not counting complications and this friend has spent a half hour calling and inviting people on the spontaneous afternoon trip, it really cuts into the spontaneity of it.

    On today’s smart phones he could have simply bulk sent the invitation to all ten of his friends in 30 seconds. That’s a huge time difference!

    While for Vonne this may be tough luck, spontaneous trips with groups of friends used to be something that just didn’t happen. Before texting technology it had to be planned in advance or maybe one or two people were invited. Vonne needs to just get used to keeping her cell phone on her – I have. I got my cell phone as a hand me down in 2006 and haven’t put 10 hours of talk time on it. I don’t like phone calls, nor do I like texting, I prefer e-mails.

    However, it is rude to force communication via archaeic means. Texting is the new telephone next to the telegraph, and if Vonne is upset that she missed the party then she needs to be upset, get over it, and keep her cell phone on her but let her friends know she prefers a phone call to a text when possible but not to avoid texting her invitations because of this!

    This also ties into this manner monday. It used to be that people had a close circle of friends and an extended circle, maybe 90 people. Now-a-days even my little brother has 500 people on his facebook friends that read his posts. ( I only have 36 ). Delivering bad news in any personal way to that many people would require a full time job.

    However, if it’s a personal thing like breaking up a long term relationship, or bad news that only involves a small circle of people, then yes it does deserve a personal touch.

  2. Julie says:

    Oh my, bad news needs to be told in person or over the phone. I can’t imagine getting bad news via text message or on FB for the whole world to see.

    Love your Manner Mondays!

    1. Thanks for visiting my blog and thanks for the comment! I enjoyed hanging out at your blog this morning as well!

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