Manner Monday®: Being a Houseguest or Being a House Host – takes a little planning

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by Carey Sue Vega in Etiquette, Family, Manner Monday, Manners

Summer is such a great time of the year!  Children are out of school and families are taking vacations.  Many of us will be hosting houseguests or we, in turn, will BE houseguests.  Being a hospitable host, and a gracious guest, takes just a little bit of extra effort – and that extra effort goes a long, long way in making sure everyone enjoys their time together.

Tips for the Houseguest:

  • As a houseguest, plan to take a hostess gift.  This can be anything from a plant, flowers, chocolates, wine, to a good book you know your host and hostess will enjoy – and it starts your stay off on such a nice note.
  • If you’ve been invited as a houseguest to a vacation or lake home – offer to help with additional expenses such as gas for the boat, or to purchase the food to grill.
  • Be courteous and try to respect your hosts’ boundaries.  For example, if they have small children who take naps, be aware of the noise you make during naptime.
  • It’s always appreciated if you try to pick up after yourself and keep your areas tidy.  Pick up your shoes from the living room and offer to help with the dishes.
  • If you’re staying of a few days, offer to take your hosts out for dinner one night.  It can be a bit of an overload on your host if they end up playing short-order-cook your entire stay.
  • Upon “checking out”, offer to take the sheets of the bed to expedite the preparation for the next guests.  More than likely your host will say ‘Oh, please don’t worry about it; I will take care of it.’  But offering to help out speaks volumes.
  • In addition to obviously verbally thanking your hosts upon your departure – follow up with an old-fashioned hand-written note, thanking them again.  It’s an archaic act that is truly appreciated.

Tips for the House Host/ess:

  • Do you best to make your guests area (bedroom, playroom, whatever space will be ‘theirs’ during their stay) inviting and relaxing.  Your guests will need space for their belongings, so make sure the closet, or dresser, is not overflowing with your children’s toys or Holiday decorations.
  • Make sure you have clean guest towels ready to go and in place.
  • Do a pre-check of the bathroom space your guests will be using and make sure there is plenty of TP, Kleenex and other toiletries on hand and backups ready for easy replacement in the cabinets.
  • Other conveniences and niceties that add a special touch to their stay include placing bottles of water on the nightstand or in the bathroom along with some travel sized amenities that can serve them in a pinch in case they forgot their shampoo, tooth brush or razor.
  • Wi-fi access?  More than likely your guests will have technology that they want to connect.  Place a note in their room with the Network name and password so they can connect at their leisure.
  • For guests who may be trying to ‘unplug’ during their visit, you may want to place a few books or magazines in their space so if they would like to spend some alone time, they have plenty of things to peruse.
  • If your guests will be coming and going during their stay, have a key made for them and be ready to share any special instructions about security systems or anything else they will need to gain access to your home.
  • Fresh flowers always make people feel special, just make sure they’re not too fragrant; you don’t want to trigger any allergies.

Having company, or being company can be exhausting – but it can also be very enjoyable.  If everyone does his or her part, it can make for a very memorable stay.

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