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Baby Shower – who can host?



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A friend recently asked this question via Twitter:  Is it proper for a mother to host a baby shower for her daughter?

What an exciting time in your life, congratulations on the new grand baby!

Historically, close friends or coworkers of the expectant mother have been the ones to offer to throw the shower.  Sometimes extended family members such as an Aunt or Cousin may act as host.  As gifts are usually the main reason for the shower, immediate family members typically do not act as host as it appears a bit “self-serving”.

Of course, with every ‘rule’ there are exceptions.  Today, with families spread out across the country and literally around the world, you see parents or siblings hosting showers for a child, or sister, who does not live in the same town.  The family member plays host as an opportunity for close friends to share in the celebration while the mother-to-be is in town for a visit.

If you don’t have someone offer to host a shower: a fun alternative for you would be to throw a “sip and see” after the baby is born, where the guests are invited to see the new bundle of joy.

Enjoy this amazing time with your daughter.

Readers, if you know of someone expecting a baby, please tell her about the “Thank you note app”.  It’s a helpful tool to track of all the baby gifts and helps to keep the thank-you note process organized and efficient.

Click on the picture below to access the app via iTunes:



  1. Cindy says:

    This brought back a very sweet memory for me. Long story short, the women in my family are very close-my daughter, myself, my mom, my mom’s mom. I’m an only child and when I found out I was pregnant (mom & grandma had given up hope since I’d been married 13 years and was 36 at the time) they were ecstatic! My mom (& grandma) loved surprises and practical jokes and such but throwing a party was something they didn’t have much experience with. So I told my husband to suggest to my mom that she throw a surprise baby shower for me. When he suggested it and offered to help w/the details, she eagerly agreed and the “secret” planning behind my back began. Neither my mom nor my husband knew whom to invite or what/when/where so I “secretly” gave my hubby ideas that he “secretly” passed on to my mom. Finally the stage was set. My mom & grandma came to my house one Saturday for a girls’ afternoon out–haircuts and perms for all (no perm for me!) then lunch at Luby’s. (2 of my mom/grandma’s fave things to do) I had arranged appointments w/a hairstylist friend of mine, to get our hair styled at her home–my grandma had health issues and couldn’t sit in a big salon w/lots of people so being pampered at a friend’s house was ideal. I was the last of the 3 haircuts and my haircut was taking WAY longer than usual–to the point of being annoying–I was pregnant and ready to eat lunch! I found out later that my friend was stalling and trying to drag out my haircut b/c she finished too early w/the other haircuts and the guests hadn’t arrived at my “surprise” shower yet (she was in on the surprise and talking to my hubby on the phone between haircuts to find out if it was time to let us go or not). After picking up take-out at Luby’s, we arrived at my house and all the guests were there. Even though I knew about the shower, I didn’t know the exact time or who would be there so I actually was surprised–esp b/c my mom was terrible at keeping secrets and she never let it slip to me that she and my hubby were planning a big baby shower! Even my hairstylist friend was there! As soon as we had left her house for Luby’s, she had left her house for my house! The memory of that day still touches me. My mom and grandma are both gone now and I never told my mom I knew about the “surprise.” She really thought she pulled one over on me. It was a great day! I feel like anyone can host a shower if it is done in the right context. All the guests were family/close friends who wanted to celebrate the upcoming birth but otherwise wouldn’t have had an opportunity to all get together to do so. I think if I had planned my shower outright, that would have been blatantly self-serving but I think letting my mom have the joy of doing it was self-serving in a good way. 😉

    1. Host says:

      I LOVE it!!! What a special memory! Another example of how rules can be “broken”!!! Thanks so much for sharing.

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